HANDLING DISCRIMINATION
Content
1 What constitutes discrimination against people
with special needs?
2 How does one recognize discriminatory behavior?
3 What are the negative effects of discrimination on parent of children
with special needs?
4 What are the negative effects of discrimination on people with
special needs?
5 How can the advocates for people with special needs work against
discrimination?
6 Steps to take to address discrimination against people with special
needs
What constitutes discrimination against people with special needs?
As parents of children with special needs you
need to be aware of the impact of discrimination in the life of
your children. Discrimination against people with special needs
includes the:
• Negative attitude or stereotyped beliefs people
have about those who are ''different'' or those with disabilities.
• Suspicious lack of trust or uncomfortable way in which people
react to the announcement that a child or adult has a disability
or special need.
• Fear, worry, and dismay on the part of relatives and friends who
find it difficult to maintain ongoing contact with parents of a
child recently diagnosed as having a disability.
• Ignorance, lack of information and lack of understanding of people
who disregard, neglect, or avoid the parents and children with special
needs.
• Cultural and societal stereotypes, prejudices, or bigotry against
main streaming people with disabilities or special needs into ''normal''
society.
• Hidden, masked, and unidentified lack of pressure on the school
systems to improve, increase the funding, and innovate in providing
services to exceptional education students.
• Lack of advocacy in terms of full funding, legal action, and policy
formulation, in support of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA)
for the full ''normalized'' employment of people with disabilities
or special needs.
• Lack of full funding and advocacy for adult day programs, sheltered
workshops, supported work programs, and subsidized work programs
to meet the employment needs of those with disabilities.
• Lack of full funding, advocacy, and appropriate zoning laws for
group homes, supported living and supervised apartments, and subsidized
apartments for people with disabilities.
• Lack of full funding and advocacy for the lifelong social, recreational,
and leisure needs of people with disabilities.
How does one recognize discriminatory behavior?
As parents of children with special needs, you
need to be alert and vigilant if there is discrimination occurring
to or around your children. This is important because you as advocates
for your children will want to take steps to address this discrimination.
You will know it is discrimination when:
• You bring your child into a public facility
like a mall, restaurant, or park and you sense people staring or
whispering.
• People stop you and ask cold, cutting, and insensitive questions
about your child.
• Public or private buildings lack appropriate ramps, access points,
and other physical supports for people with handicaps and disabilities.
• You want to talk to someone about your feelings, worries, and
concerns and everyone either ignores, avoids, or reassures you that
everything will be OK.
• Your friends and relatives begin to avoid you and your child.
• There are major, drastic, and deep cuts at the federal, state,
and local levels in funding educational, medical, social, and rehabilitation
programs for people with disabilities.
• Parents in the neighborhood do not allow their children to associate
with your children for fear that they will ''catch'' the disability.
• You realize that people only see the handicap or disability and
do not recognize the people with the handicaps or disabilities as
"people.''
• Your church, mosque or synagogue offers no special programs or
support to you or your child.
• Support programs are not offered to parents of children with disabilities
by the agencies that serve them.
• There are waiting lists of three years or more for day employment
programs or residential services for adults with disabilities.
• You continue to hear derisive slang expressions used to refer
to people with disabilities, such as ''retard, crip, geek, gork,
gimp, tard, bozo, imbecile, dumbo, dumdum, boom boom, bimbo, stupid,
weirdos, dummies, stupos, nerds.''
effects of discrimination on parents
Because discrimination exists in our society,
you as parents of children with disabilities, handicaps and special
needs will be negatively impacted. Some of the ways you might begin
to behave as a result of such discrimination are:
• Become highly defensive against any negative
reaction to your children.
• Have a tendency to overly protect and hide your children from
such negative reaction.
• Resent the negative attitudes displayed by your own parents, relatives,
and friends.
• Become suspicious of anyone who ask any questions about your children.
• Begin to feel like you are carrying the burden of care for your
children alone, with no support from family, friends or the community
in which you live.
• Begin to feel like you will always have to ''fight city hall''
or ''cut red tape'' to get your children help.
• Begin to feel isolated and alone in your efforts to help your
children.
• Begin to feel misunderstood and ostracized by people in your lives
for actions you have had to take in order to help your children.
• Begin to feel paranoid whenever you take your children into the
public eye.
• Become resentful toward parents with ''normal'' children who have
it ''so easy,'' and yet complain about their children and complain
about ''how hard" they have it.
effects of discrimination on people with disabilities
Because discrimination exists in our society,
people with special needs, your children, will become negatively
impacted. You will be able to identify if your children are suffering
from discrimination by some of the following. Children with special
needs will react to discrimination by beginning to:
• Find it difficult to understand others' reactions
to them.
• Find life lonely, unable to play with the kids in their neighborhood.
• Resent having to go to special classes or schools rather than
to the regular classes in the neighborhood schools with their friends.
• Feel self conscious about their differences.
• Feel resentful about how others treat them, like talking loudly
or slowly to them.
• Find it difficult to compete for academic honors or scholarships
in public high schools.
• Find it hard to get into colleges of their choice.
• Find it difficult to get competitive employment.
• Have fewer resources to use for day programming or housing when
they reach adulthood.
• Are sometimes unable to participate in religious, cultural, leisure
activities and recreational programs of their choosing.
How can advocates work against discrimination?
You as parents of children with special needs
can become anti-discrimination advocates for your children. In your
advocacy endeavors you will meet others who advocate for people
with disabilities, handicaps and special needs. You as advocates,
who promote the reduction of the impact of discrimination against
people with special needs, have the following tasks ahead of you
in your fight:
Continue to lobby forcibly at the federal, state,
and local levels for funding of educational, social, medical, and
rehabilitative services for people with disabilities. Continue to
lobby to open churches or synagogues, social clubs, civic organizations,
leisure, and recreational clubs to serve people who have disabilities.
Instruct the public, medical, and professional
communities as to the need for early identification and intervention
for those with disabilities. Provide an ongoing forum in the print
and electronic media to dispel the myths and stereotypes surrounding
people with disabilities.
Openly confront and educate physicians, relatives, and friends about
the nature, cause, and treatment of disabilities. Continue to promote
and sponsor fund raising for the private, nonprofit organizations
serving people with disabilities and special needs.
Work with curriculum developers and text-book writers to ensure
that stereotypes of people with disabilities are discontinued and
that accurate information about people with disabilities is included
in the K-12 curriculum, in college, and in medical training programs.
Demonstrate publicly that disabilities hit at every socio-economic,
racial, religious, ethnic, and regional level in our society.
• Educate the public that having a child with a disability is not
the most devastating thing to occur in life. Mainstream and get
children with disabilities included into preschools, day care centers,
and elementary schools to teach the ''normal-typical'' children
that they have nothing to fear from associating with these children.
Steps to address discrimination against people with special needs
Step 1
Before you begin to address discrimination, determine
the level of discrimination you or your child is experiencing. Answer
the following questions in your journal:
How do you know when you are experiencing discrimination
because of your target child's disability? How does it make you
feel? How do you react to it?
How do you feel about always needing to be an
active advocate to ensure that the societal discrimination does
not prevent your child from getting optimal services?
How do you feel about funding cuts at the federal,
state, and local levels toward people with disabilities? How will
these cuts affect your child? What do you feel is the reason for
these cuts?
How open, responsive, and accepting to people
with disabilities were you before your child was diagnosed as having
a disability? What was your belief toward people with handicaps
before your child was born?
How would you have felt when you were a teenager
if you knew then that you would have a child with a disability?
How would you have treated such people then, knowing what you know
now?
How close do you remain to the friends you had
prior to your child's diagnosed problem? For the friends with whom
you have become distant, what do you believe the reason for this
is?
How do you feel about the ignorance, lack of information
and understanding you confront whenever you speak about your child
to your: parents, relatives, friends, doctors, neighbors, coworkers?
How much support do you have from your: church
or synagogue, social clubs, old friends, neighbors, relatives, parents,
in-laws, and spouse as you deal with your target child's concerns?
How often do you feel like you are under scrutiny
or on stage when you bring your child into a public setting? How
has having a child with a disability changed you, your attitudes,
beliefs, values, and behavior toward others with disabilities? What
does this teach you about the discrimination you and your child
experience?
Step 2
Once you have identified whether or not you and
your target child are experiencing discrimination, list the negative
effects this discrimination is having on:
• your child
• your family
• your spouse
• your extended family
• you.
Step 3
Now that you have identified the negative effects
of discrimination, identify the behavior needed to counteract such
discrimination by:
• myself
• my spouse
• my children
• my target child
• my parents and in-laws
• my relatives
• my friends
• my neighbors
• my church or synagogue
• my target child's doctors
• my child's non-profit advocate agency
• my child's schools
• the state agencies serving children like mine
• the professionals involved with my target child and other children
like mine.
Step 4
Now that you have identified a set of new behavior
traits to be displayed by all those involved with your child, consider
an action plan. This personal action plan will describe your reactions
in the future to any real or perceived discrimination against you
and/or your target child. Develop this plan in your journal:
My Anti-Discrimination Plan
I will watch myself react to the following people
over the next three months to determine whether or not I am reacting
to discrimination from them:
I will instruct these people with appropriate
literature and verbal instruction about my child's disability, letting
them know the following facts to reduce their ignorance, apathy,
and stereotypic behavior:
I will develop three standard responses to strangers'
questions about my child's problems. They will be:
I will try the following new behavior patterns
in the next 12 months to deal with discrimination against my child
and me:
I will assess the level of discrimination I am
experiencing at the end of 12 months by looking at the following
variables:
• How isolated I feel
• How accepted my child is by others
• How readily available services are to my child
• How freely I am able to tell people about my child
• How my child is feeling about him/herself.
Step 5
If you or your spouse have problems in planning
or implementing a plan of action to counteract discrimination, return
to Step 1 and begin again.
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